If you are reading this you are probably dealing with a complicated, confusing dynamic in your relationship and are curious about the Moon Pluto in synastry.
The technical details upfront: for the Moon Pluto conjunction, square, opposition we would give an orb of about 5 degrees, strongest felt 0-3. Remember if someone’s Pluto is aspecting your moon it is likely everyone within that age group will also have their Pluto in aspect. How the two partners work together does not depend solely on Moon-Pluto hard aspects but other connections between the luminaries and the inner planets.
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If a platonic or a romantic relationship is actually established then it is one where there is an intense affection that requires the participants to be ready for experiencing strong emotions. It is a relationship where the togetherness is sometimes a result of a need for emotional fulfillment and not necessarily out of romantic love. There might be a strong attachment, one person entwining around the other. Or there might be alternating periods of strong attachment, followed by detachment.
Bonding might occur on the basis of past traumatic experiences, which often give the sense that both partners have something in common. It might be a relationship that has the scope of healing emotional wounds in one or both partners. But they will have to manage the difficult emotions productively. Unfortunately, there is a chance that the relationship can augment and perpetuate traumas of the past.
A lot of emotions lived in the relationship on the opposite ends of the scale – the beautiful sense of being high up and then crashing. But hey, who doesn’t like a rollercoaster? Exhaustion, upheaval and turbulence are common side effects especially in the Moon-Pluto square. The hard aspect connected to most tension, fighting and constantly riled up emotions. Seeing through to the soul of the partner is the ultimate reward in this relationship.
Ebertin says Moon-Pluto’s principle is an extreme expression of feeling but it is confined to special channels of expression or in a one-sided manner. Excitability of emotional complexes or a person torn between a fanatical striving for the attainment of objectives and a soft-hearted sentimentality. Negatively expressed there are violent outbursts of feeling, inner shocks or emotional upheaval.
The Moon represents: feelings, emotional perception, innermost needs, most vulnerable part of self, our soul. How we react to the outside world. The felt- thinking. Pluto on the other hand represents: impersonal force, unconscious force, invisible might, power to change, metamorphosis.
Who is the Moon to Pluto? (as always it depends on Pluto’s house and natal aspects as well). Well, a soft glow of light and as Pluto is a planet of darkness something that he desires. The Moon is someone who can see through the darkness, into the core of Pluto and shine light there. And Pluto is often quite in awe with the way the Moon expresses its emotions, its thoughts. With how it acts in the world. Expression of the Moon’s inner self might fascinate Pluto. On a more negative note the Moon may come across as too needy and lacking in independence.
Who is Pluto to Moon?: As always the dark figure is powerful, magnetic, intriguing. It is a relationship where repressed emotions can be finally looked at and understood. They need to be confronted. A relationship that allows the Moon to look into her own soul and past but also experience a new profundity of feeling.
How does the Moon act? The Moon may be overcome with the desire to nurture Pluto, might try to save him from himself. The Moon finds it difficult to leave, feeling like they are abandoning Pluto sometimes. The Moon might feel vulnerable, exposed because of the powerful release of emotions and feelings. It might escape the bond early on or on some level wants to leave the relationship later.
How does Pluto act? (depending also highly on the natal chart, spiritual development of the person and the rest of the synastry. People will always firstly act according to their natal charts):
On the outside neutral/aloof/cold, if secure in the relationship often with a nonchalant or even uncaring attitude. There is a reluctance to show the importance of the relationship, until threatened with losing the Moon. Pluto has power in the relationship. It can be used in a more positive, transformative way but in reality often is related to at least some form of emotional control or obsessiveness. In certain people there might be a tendency to be manipulative, even deriving a certain enjoyment in causing the emotional explosions of the Moon, making her mad. Others cause pain unintentionally and unconsciously. Pluto as always causes turmoils.
How does Pluto make Moon feel?:
In a generally positive relationship – protected and having a sense of purpose in the relationship. There could be a sense that Pluto makes the Moon feel more in touch with its intuitive, instinctual self. But in hard aspects the Moon is also often emotionally triggered and hurt on a very deep level. On a more negative note – somewhat smothered, deprived of freedom, captured. There is a sense of being between a rock and a hard place. Personal dilemmas for the Moon are often caused by Pluto. She might feel threatened (on an emotional level), which leads to strong reaction stemming from deep unconscious realms.
How does Moon make Pluto feel?: There may be a sense of exasperation and a lack of patience with the Moon. In need to guard his treasures, they also might be possessive of them but also protective. No single expression is entirely positive or negative. Jealousy and fear of loss, wanting to keep the Moon and its glow to himself.
Dynamics that develop in Moon Pluto hard aspect relationship:
Those are just potentials and don’t always form.
There might be an issue with the balance of needs between the partners. The Moon might be over nurturing and Pluto absorbing every speck of light and warmth he can get. With time the Moon ignores her own needs and the relationship becomes dysfunctional and suffocating.
The emotions of the Moon are held hostage by Pluto,like a princess in a tower. She might be reluctant to leave the relationship because she doesn’t want to make Pluto feel abandoned. Pluto doesn’t want to be abandoned so will exhibit jealousy and could act in a possessive and manipulative manner. There might be codependency and obsessiveness. And in many cases it might be unclear who has the upper hand (at the moment).
Depending on the state of the Moon in the natal chart, generally violent (strong) expression of emotions might be triggered in any relationship with Moon Pluto Hard Aspects. A dam can be broken and an emotional flood might result. In hard aspects, more often than not, negative emotions will be prevalent. But sometimes it could also be that deep positive emotions are experienced.
The End and the Aftereffects:
Separation is very difficult and painful – staying together is a challenge but so is breaking up. There is the sense that the partner would be missed very strongly if the relationship ends, it feels like the end of the world, and it is in a way an end of a world.
Pluto will be quite unhappy with losing its treasure, and the light of the Moon. We might see Pluto putting the Moon onto a pedestal and finding it difficult to gain perspective and feel ready to let go.
The Moon will experience difficulties in breaking the emotional bond, and will likely leave with a mixed sense of liberation and guilt. The pain will lessen after the work that Pluto triggered on emotional level is completed and a new direction is found
Longterm:
The aspect can also mean a powerful connection. If both individuals have a healthy self-esteem and there are other positive and caring synastry points it can be used effectively for both in personal growth. Healing and tapping into one’s authentic power through shadow-integration
It takes great maturity for Pluto to relinquish the desire to possess the Moon and for Moon to accept Pluto’s depth, power and invitation to achieve a new emotional depth but that is the only way for the relationship to work long term.
Moon Pluto square Hard aspects – conjunction, square, opposition in synastry in a non-romantic relationships
Friendships
Especially with the conjunction: Deep connection and a deep bond, instant capacity for deep talks and soul searching. Allowing each other to grow and stretching each other’s horizon’s of life. Learning about different emotions, being forced to confront topics that are uncomfortable, or considered strange in a friendship. Quite a potential for growth and long term.
If the Moon person is not capable of confronting the emotional turmoils that Pluto causes (especially with the square) the relationship might end prematurely, as friendships don’t always offer the glue that a romantic relationship does. Pluto is going to be protective, but not going to handle the Moon with kid gloves, the Moon will highly likely feel vulnerable and hurt.
In parent-child relationships there is often quite an emotional struggle to endure if the relationship is not actively worked on.
If Pluto is the parent – might be quite controlling of the child, having the sense that the child belongs to them. The Moon child might feel emotionally triggered by the parent (especially with a square). On one side there is great love for the parent, but also emotional unhappiness, as the child might feel often emotionally abandoned by the parent.
If Pluto is the child – they might cause their parents to experience more intense emotions, and even feelings towards that child. But it is possible that we are seeing a somewhat troubled child that needs the parent to sacrifice a lot for them. Might have to deal with rage and acting out, when a parent tries to set limits or restrict Pluto. Or using more subtle emotional manipulation in order to get what they want.
Of course a positive relationship is possible (more so with conjunction or opposition, more difficult with a square), where the parent has an intense emotional connection to the child and they grow together.
We hope this breakdown of the difficult Moon-Pluto conjunctions, square and oppositions comes in useful. Leave your experiences in the comments, if you feel like it!
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